Draw the red line

There are so many things we get worried about. Even though we have so many to be happy over, we never stop to worry about something or the other in our day-to-day lives. To say that we are all worry-adicts may not be completely false. So, do we have a remedy for this? That is, if at all we want and wish we could have one.

Right from childhood, we are running after studies, work, extra curriculars, etc.
And success or failure in each of these affects us hard emotionally.
Not only that. We are worried over each and every small activity in our everyday lives.
When we miss the bus to school or office, we are angry with ourselves. When we miss the alarm, miss the special class, and wake up at 10, we bury our heads in shame at not being able to even control the time we wake up. When we can't manage to adhere to a schedule one day, we are cross with ourselves.

This is apart from the resulting sadness after our boss lambasts us for poor (or so he thought) workmanship; or the seething anger after the spouse would not accede to your request for whatever.

So there never is an end to this worry-mania. Or is it?
When I started thinking about this(after worrying over one such inconsequential matter), I thought let me draw a line on this. Let me write out exactly for what reasons I am going to be worried/ sad/ too bothered from now on, for everything will pass. I'm going to control that. And that will not control me.

To be sure, we will be upset at minor failures. But I think we can quickly and consciously think over it and be back at our cheerful best.

Here is a typical example:
Do we feel happy when we reach work in time? No? Why? Isn't that a good thing? Perhaps it is normal to reach office in time. And that's the reason we don't celebrate when that happens.
Now, why do we feel angry/ sad when we reach office late? Anger/ sadness is just another emotion like happiness is.
When we don't feel an emotion(called happiness) for what has been achieved, why do we have to feel an emotion(called sadness) for what was not achieved?

If you say that that is not normal and that's the reason you get angry, then we move on a little further - isn't erring a human trait? Yes, it is. To err is human. Therefore, to err is normal. So if we don't feel happy for something normal, we need not feel sad for something normal.

Conclusion: if you feel happy for what was achieved, you may rightfully feel aggrieved if it was not. And, and this is the bottomline, if you don't feel happy for what's achieved, you do not have the right to worry yourself.

Draw the red line.